Mothering Many

Sometime ago, like in October, which was three lifetimes in the past, I attended some training sessions for my role as Cub Master. As part of that we covered the ages and stages boys go through as they move through scouting, and I knew at the time I wanted to discuss it here for ya’l, but as things tend to do, it just slipped through the cracks. Except!! I have been writing a massive to-do list (when I finally got started on it today, it totaled 6.5 pages, that’s practically a mattress ya’ll), and guess what? That’s right, typing this post was on it. Along with many other things, HA! Anyway, here we go.

Seven year olds have a very difficult time with time. They have no concept of “later”, life is now or never. They are also very literal.

Nine year olds are into verbal violence. Dork, retard, and I’m going to kill you are real high on their list of cute things to say (personal experience indicates that this phase can last well into the teen years).

Eleven years olds need clear instructions, preferably just a few steps at a time. “Clear the table” may be more than they can handle, but they can certainly handle the job if it’s broken down for them.

Thirteen year olds are all about the fair. They want to make sure that everyone is treated equally (experience indicated that this phase can begin as early as eight in some kids).

Sixteen year olds are able to understand rules and their function. They are good with younger kids and able to think of others.

Eighteen year olds are beginning to show even more adult skills. They can delay gratification, compromise and set goals (and work toward them).